Family & Friends

These pages are for those seeking advice or to learn about the experience of others on matters of fertility and trying for a baby, parenting, family relationships, friendship, marriage and love.

The Plight of the Smug Married

Stop preaching to and patronising your single friends

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I would like to discuss the plight of the ‘Smug Married’ – a moniker made popular by Bridget Jones in the mid nineties, there are no people less cool, less popular, or more annoying, than your Smug…

Swearing

What the f**k is it all about?

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Considered extremely uncouth by many, swearing seems to serve a different purpose to different people. I’m putting it out there that I love a good swear – somehow the words, that often sound as angry as…

Amsterfam: Fizzy Chewits

From London to Amsterdam with three kids

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Setting aside the incomprehensible language, the wormholes of homesickness and the abject horror of an existence without Branston pickle, there is much to be said for family life in the Netherlands. The Dutch have some ingenious…

Xian Hui

A story of hope and survival after stillbirth

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Where do you start with the hardest and most bittersweet story you will ever have to write? The story of my little darling girl that died, the longed for baby that we tried for nearly three…

Letter to my Teenage Son

How to be a good man, or ‘The Book of Mum’

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Two years ago, my teenage son told me he wanted to go and live with his father in South Africa. His dream was to attend a well-known boys’ school near Capetown for his A-levels, a school which…

IVF

A GP’s guide to everything you need to know

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Hello everyone, and huge apologies for this piece being slightly later than anticipated. Life has just got in the way in the last few weeks as we’ve just bought our first home as a couple. Thank…

Labour Day

My positive (emergency C-section) birth experience

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Firstly, right off the bat I want to say that I had an overwhelmingly positive birth experience. I might even want to go as far as to say I had a really good time.  Having heard quite…

Me and Mine – An Essay on Motherhood

Capturing the every day, precious moments of parenting

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Watching my best friend give birth at the age of seventeen was a pivotal moment in my life; it was the moment I realised I wanted to become a Mum. To witness someone giving birth, looking…