Family & Friends

These pages are for those seeking advice or to learn about the experience of others on matters of fertility and trying for a baby, parenting, family relationships, friendship, marriage and love.

Romance and Renovation

The trials and tribulations of keeping the love alive whilst the builders are in! 

When we embarked on renovating our home, I thought the most challenging thing was going to be whether we could afford it and if we would be able to get the right tradesmen in to do…

4 min

My Journey Into Motherhood

Losing and rediscovering my sense of self after becoming a mother

Two years ago I completely lost sense of who I was. I had little idea of what I was really feeling, I didn’t know who I was supposed to be, I didn’t recognise the person I saw…

5 min

Let Them Try It Out!

What your child really gets from competitive sport

When my son started school, it’s fair to say that sport was not his thing. I’d dutifully trot along to football matches and cross country runs and watch as my boy lurked on the half-way line…

6 min

Are You Going To Keep Trying For A Boy?

An exploration of Gender Disappointment

My girls are 17, 13 and 11 years old. They bring me and my husband a huge amount of joy. Currently Freyja (17) is studying for a Diploma in Music Production at our local College and…

9 min

Baby Love

When is the right time to try for a baby?

I’m not a decisive person, as anyone who knows me reasonably well will tell you. If I chose the cheesecake for dessert I’m always quite convinced the moment I’ve done so that it’s not the best…

5 min

What Do I Do Now?

When someone you love has dementia

She looked up at me innocently, her soft blue eyes with their flecks of grey widening like a small child’s. She looked so mystified and innocent that I could hardly bear it. ‘One, two, three, seventeen,…

8 min

Choosing A Childfree Life

Why does having children still seem to be the only acceptable option?

So, when are you going to start having children? Chances are, if you’re a woman over the age of 18, or if you’ve been married for more than 30 seconds, you’ve been asked this question. Probably by…

6 min

These Are The Days

Navigating my way through parenting & accepting the fate of my ovaries

I’ve secretly wanted 3 children for almost my entire adult life, but the practicalities of having 3 when you already have 2 daughters and 3 dogs and run your own home-based business are not as straight…

7 min

Big Little Trip: A Mother and Daughter Travel Adventure

Part 4: Deepest, darkest Peru

Hello, it’s Lily here 🙂 I am the ‘little’ in @biglittletrip I am nine-years-old and am travelling with my mum for a year all around Latin America.  Mum has asked me to write this next post…

7 min

The Plight of the Smug Married

Stop preaching to and patronising your single friends

I would like to discuss the plight of the ‘Smug Married’ – a moniker made popular by Bridget Jones in the mid nineties, there are no people less cool, less popular, or more annoying, than your Smug…

3 min