Family Relationships

Times with my dad: Life, death and values

Dementia Awareness Week

A few weeks ago, I went to a driving range with my dad, he turns 78 this year – just him and me hanging out for a few hours on a Friday morning, doing something fun. It…

10 min

Thank You, Love

When love is the way

On 19th May I watched Doria Ragland eyes fill with tears as she sat alone in St. George’s chapel at Windsor Castle. I felt so moved, I wanted to reach out and give her a warm…

5 min

Life After Parental Suicide

The goodbye I never got to say

Dear Dad, Much like you with the note that you wrote, I too don’t know where to begin. How do I possibly begin to say goodbye to you? To you, oh to you, my Dad… I…

8 min

Dealing With The Loss of a Parent

A letter to myself

Dear Me, 2012, It’s impossible to put into words how you are feeling right now, after mom passed away so tragically and so prematurely.  Six years later, I have the benefit of hindsight, clarity, logic, but…

4 min

National Siblings Day (UK) – April 10th 2018

Sister? Brother? Or sibling free?

I have never been siblingless (is that a word?). As the youngest of two girls, my life as I know it has always included a sister, 2 years and 1 month my senior. Growing up I…

6 min

What Do I Do Now?

When someone you love has dementia

She looked up at me innocently, her soft blue eyes with their flecks of grey widening like a small child’s. She looked so mystified and innocent that I could hardly bear it. ‘One, two, three, seventeen,…

8 min

Choosing A Childfree Life

Why does having children still seem to be the only acceptable option?

So, when are you going to start having children? Chances are, if you’re a woman over the age of 18, or if you’ve been married for more than 30 seconds, you’ve been asked this question. Probably by…

6 min

Amsterfam: Fizzy Chewits

From London to Amsterdam with three kids

Setting aside the incomprehensible language, the wormholes of homesickness and the abject horror of an existence without Branston pickle, there is much to be said for family life in the Netherlands. The Dutch have some ingenious…

7 min

Amsterfam: Frocks

From London to Amsterdam with three kids

It is the last day of 2017 and it is pissing it down. I know, right? Your woman in Amsterdam has the inside track. The weather in The Netherlands is shitty. In the few months we’ve…

6 min

Amsterfam: What do you think? Should we go for it?

From London to Amsterdam with three kids

It is Saturday. A cold December morning in Amsterdam. I am standing in my kitchen pondering this whatsapp message, whilst my children watch contraband American television in the front room. My steadfast rule for the encouragement…

6 min