Family Relationships

What Do I Do Now?

When someone you love has dementia

She looked up at me innocently, her soft blue eyes with their flecks of grey widening like a small child’s. She looked so mystified and innocent that I could hardly bear it. ‘One, two, three, seventeen,…

8 min

Choosing A Childfree Life

Why does having children still seem to be the only acceptable option?

So, when are you going to start having children? Chances are, if you’re a woman over the age of 18, or if you’ve been married for more than 30 seconds, you’ve been asked this question. Probably by…

6 min

Amsterfam: Fizzy Chewits

From London to Amsterdam with three kids

Setting aside the incomprehensible language, the wormholes of homesickness and the abject horror of an existence without Branston pickle, there is much to be said for family life in the Netherlands. The Dutch have some ingenious…

7 min

Amsterfam: Frocks

From London to Amsterdam with three kids

It is the last day of 2017 and it is pissing it down. I know, right? Your woman in Amsterdam has the inside track. The weather in The Netherlands is shitty. In the few months we’ve…

6 min

Amsterfam: What do you think? Should we go for it?

From London to Amsterdam with three kids

It is Saturday. A cold December morning in Amsterdam. I am standing in my kitchen pondering this whatsapp message, whilst my children watch contraband American television in the front room. My steadfast rule for the encouragement…

6 min

I’m Sorry For Your Loss

Grief & loss

I want to scream. Those words are beginning to deeply irritate me. They seem so completely bizarre at the time of someone’s death. My beloved Nan died very recently and I have had so many messages, all…

2 min

Be More Danish! Part 1: Moving From England to Denmark

Relocating family life to Copenhagen

Hello, Possums! I’m rarely speechless (the question of whether there is an off-switch on me may have been asked before, eeep) but even I am struggling to put aptly into words just how ridiculously thrilled I am…

4 min

A Case For The Private Love Letter

Heartfelt & handwritten notes of love

On sorting through my Mother’s papers after her death last year, I discovered a battered old leather suitcase tucked away at the back of her bedroom cupboard. Inside was a cardboard box lined lovingly with pink…

5 min

Amsterfam: Frayed

From London to Amsterdam with three kids

At the beginning of the second week of Dutch school, I find myself in sole charge of our three children, because My Lawyer husband has gone away with The Job He Won’t Have To Travel With….

7 min

Amsterfam: The People Who Live Opposite Us Have Disappeared

From London To Amsterdam With Three Kids

I have been living here in Amsterdam for three months now, with my three children, aged three, six and eight, and My Lawyer, aged thirty-nine, who is married to me and refuses to represent me legally. …

5 min